One of the fundamental ideas in Conscious Realization is the idea of maturity, and it’s something many of the people I talk to from day to day misunderstand.
When I talk about spiritual or psychological maturity, I’m not talking about physical maturity. A 60-year-old may be physically mature but may still be spiritually immature. You might think that this is a subjective and individual definition, but that’s not the case.
Spiritual maturity is the ability to find the balance between our own needs and the desires and emotions of others. It also means being able to recognize the opinions and judgments of others in ourselves. When we are young and immature, we take on board other people’s beliefs, opinions, convictions and rules, uncritically and very often unknowingly: “we must, he cannot, you should!” How often do we judge and condemn automatically, without thinking? Where does the basis for such judgement come from? How often do we hold ourselves to some kind of principle without ever examining it or remembering where we learned it?
Recognizing our own immaturity and starting to take responsibility for our own mental health is a major step ahead. Moving towards greater spiritual maturity means taking every opportunity for personal growth – ourselves.
Take a moment to consciously remember how often you put the responsibility for your ‘happiness’ or ‘serenity’ onto other people or on outside events or situations. Start to recognize each time an automatic judgement or belief intrudes in your day-to-day life. And once again, keep in mind my constant advice: don’t believe everything you think.
– Dirk de Sousa